My (mimic) octopus teacher — How to build authenticity at work

How to be an authentic leader

Ways to Build Authenticity at work

  • Get in touch with your feelings by taking the time to sit quietly for a few moments. You can even give yourself a hug and ask yourself “What am I feeling right now?”, “Where do I notice that in my body?”, “What are the sensations associated with that feeling?”
  • Start to distinguish between the thoughts and actions of your Adaptive Self and your Authentic Self by taking a step back and observing your thinking and behaviour. Over time you’ll start to be able to identify those that feel like they ‘belong’ to you, compared to those that seem to be coming from an outside influence
  • Think back to your childhood and teenage years. A lot of our conditioning comes from how we were brought up, including the culture we’re from. Take time to notice when you’re living out cultural or societal values and ways of being in a non-critical way. Ask yourself if those ideas are actually true for you personally. This isn’t about throwing out everything you’ve learned that helps you function well in society, but rather about being discerning about which of those ideas and values you want to take on and embody
  • Be conscious about the decisions you make. It’s easy to go on autopilot. Slow down, take a few deep breaths and feel what the right decision is for you. Don’t allow yourself to be pushed into making big decisions without having time to allow the decision and potential options to percolate first, gently allowing ‘what feels right’ (you might call it a gut feeling) to arise in its own time
  • Finally, authenticity only grows in the presence of self-love. We need to allow ourselves to be ourselves without beating ourselves up for not being like everybody else. It’s our uniqueness that makes us valuable. Bringing compassion to yourself is key to recognising the power of our uniqueness

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I help organisations create human-centred workplaces with self-leadership as the norm, supercharging performance by unlocking the potential of all employees

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Allison Lindsay

Allison Lindsay

I help organisations create human-centred workplaces with self-leadership as the norm, supercharging performance by unlocking the potential of all employees